5 Things I’d Do to Find Love Right Now

If I were single today and looking for love, I’ll be honest—it wouldn’t be easy. I talk to so many amazing, successful, emotionally available women (and men) who are doing everything right, but still can’t seem to meet the right person. Even dating coaches I know are struggling. So trust me, if you’re feeling discouraged, you are not alone.

But here’s the good news: love is still out there.

And if I had to start from scratch? These are the five things I would absolutely be doing to find it.

1. I’d Upgrade to Version 2.0 (Maybe Even 3.0!)

You’ve heard me say this before: if the iPhone keeps updating, so should you.

That means working on the inside and outside—emotional health, personal growth, style, fitness, your home environment, all of it. You can be amazing on the inside, but if your presentation is a mess, people won’t stick around long enough to discover it. And vice versa.

2. I’d Lower My Expectations Without Settling

Yep, I said it.

Not everything on your checklist matters. Trust me, I had to figure this out the hard way. Nobody will check every single box—and if they do, it's probably Photoshop and fantasy. I go by the 80/20 rule: If 80% of your partner is a great fit and the other 20% is just stuff you can live with (or even grow from), you’re doing pretty great.

3. I’d Stop Selling Myself 

Ladies, this one’s for you.

Men don’t fall in love with your LinkedIn. They fall in love with how you make them feel—your warmth, your softness, your energy. So instead of listing degrees or earnings, I’d lean into connection, presence, and playfulness. That’s what creates attraction.

4. I’d Get Super Clear on What I Want

This one’s huge.

You can’t manifest—or match with—what you’re not clear about. Do you really want a long-term relationship? Marriage? Kids? Or are you just dating because you think you “should”?

5. I’d Get Out There and Not Give Up

Yes, dating can be exhausting. But like I always say—finding love is a lot like building a nest. You don’t just sit in a tree and wait for it to happen. You gather twigs. You make an effort. You build something.


Here’s what I believe:
There are great men and women out there. You can find love again. But it starts with you making a move.

And I want that for you. If you’re ready to get serious about finding the right relationship—not just any relationship—I’m here to help. Check out the episode below and let’s do this together.

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🎧 Watch now to Episode 110: 5 Things to Do to Find Love NOW

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