In a world where relationship advice often feels like fluff or fantasy, one podcast episode has offered something real, raw, and refreshingly grounded.
On episode 107 of A Matchmaker’s Guide on Love and Life, I sat down with Pastor Keith Craft—a powerhouse of wisdom, leadership, and love—to talk about what truly sustains a marriage through decades of life, growth, and change. From early romance to spiritual alignment, Pastor Keith offers timeless principles that couples everywhere can learn from.
A Real Love Story
Their story isn’t some fairytale. It’s real, raw, and intentional. Pastor Keith and Sheila started dating as teenagers, and from day one, he was clear: he wanted to build something meaningful with her.
On their very first date, he drew a triangle—him, her, and God at the top. He told her, “If we both work on being our best for God, we’ll naturally grow closer to each other.” I still get goosebumps thinking about that!
And guess what? He’s kept that commitment for over 593 months—yes, he honors her on the 20th of every single month. That’s the kind of consistency we dream about in relationships, right?
Romance, Redefined
What stood out most during our conversation was his redefinition of romance. He said something I’ll never forget:
"Romance means to rise above mediocrity of mind."
– Pastor Keith Craft
It’s not about flowers or grand gestures (although we love those!). It’s about deciding the kind of partner you want to be—not just the kind of partner you want to have. That hit me hard. As women, we’re often told we “deserve” the best—but how often do we focus on becoming the best?
The Real Secret
So, what’s the secret to a happy marriage?
It’s not a secret at all. It’s a mindset:
Grow spiritually—individually and together.
Honor each other—not just once a year, but consistently.
Seek to understand—even when it’s hard.
We talked about how men and women are wired differently (yes, there’s even science behind it!) and why learning each other’s emotional filters is crucial. Sheila feels first, then thinks. Keith thinks first, then feels. Understanding that difference has helped them thrive through decades of change and challenge.
If we want extraordinary love, we have to live extraordinarily on purpose.
So, friend, go listen to this one. And if it speaks to you, share it with your partner, your best friend, or your future self. Because love is worth learning—and growing—for.
🎧 Watch to Ep 107- The Secret to a Happy Marriage
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