Starting a new relationship can feel electric—the butterflies, the flirty texts, the fun dates. But if you’ve ever had a girlfriend lose interest after the honeymoon phase, you know how frustrating it can be. One minute things are great, and the next she’s pulling away.
Finding a Quality Girlfriend
With so many options out there—apps, social media, setups—it’s easy to chase the wrong kind of connection. One of the biggest lessons I share in this episode is what I call the picture frame theory: date within your life stage and lifestyle. If your worlds are completely different, the long-term fit is going to be tough.
Preferences vs. Standards
Another big one? Knowing the difference between preferences and standards. Sure, attraction matters—but being overly focused on looks or surface-level traits can keep you from finding a woman who actually aligns with your long-term goals. As I say in the podcast, “Stop looking for the hot girl… pick the cute girl.” Why? Because character, kindness, and compatibility will always outlast appearances.
Effort is Everything
This is my favorite part—because it’s where so many men get it wrong. Relationships don’t thrive on autopilot. Women notice when you put in the effort, when you make them feel special, when you show up. From planning dates to really listening to her heart, effort is what turns casual dating into a lasting relationship.
Keeping the Girl
Finally, we talk about how to keep her. And it’s not rocket science—it’s consistency. Celebrate her. Surprise her. Communicate your intentions. Lead with clarity and make her feel secure in the relationship. In other words, don’t just win her over once—keep winning her, again and again.
This episode is all about giving men the real tools to stop guessing, stop losing great women, and start building relationships that last.
🎧 Watch now: How to Get a Girlfriend (And KEEP Her)
Link here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tWGzfiwU1qo.
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